Dear Baba Yaga, How do I stop spending too much time and energy worrying over someone I will probably never be with?
BABA YAGA: You cannot choose the fly that mucks up yr stew, but you can choose to throw the pot out the window. Throw it joyously & then go picking strange & goodly fruits to make a sweet new pot, & let yrself wander free into new gardens & tarry long. You have been too much , forlornly looking at the pest.
When I get really bored at work I spend a lot of time reading advice columns on The Awl and this is the best one I’ve read recently.
THROW OUT THE ENTIRE FUCKING POT.
And I say this, not with respect to any one person (unless that person is Michael Fassbender, in which case, let’s face it, he’d be lucky to have me), but with an eye towards how much time and energy we spend dwelling and lingering on what we don’t have.
You gotta shake it up from time to time or you’ll lose hours, weeks, months, years in want.